5 tips to talk about grief to a child
It is never easy to approach death with a child. For fear of hurting or shocking, it is often the silence that is appropriate. According to specialists, this is an error that only accentuates his discomfort.
Use simple words
For a child to accept death in general or the loss of a loved one, one must first agree to talk about it. Protecting children from all that is sad is not necessarily a good idea because it can worry them more.
In simple terms, it is necessary to explain to the child that death is part of life and to have a speech as real as possible while taking into account its age and sensitivity.
Help him to express what he feels
If the child has trouble verbalizing, ask him to draw a picture, write a poem, compose a bouquet of flowers or any other activity that will allow him to materialize his sorrow can help him.
This allows him, just like the adult, to begin a process of mourning. Games and books are also good tools to help verbalize emotions.
If the child wishes, he can be taken to the grave of the deceased if he is well surrounded
A child who has just suffered a loss needs to feel loved and supported, especially if it is a loss of a loved one (mother, father, sister, brother).
The great feeling of loneliness that will seize him must be anticipated and lived as best as possible thanks to the entourage. To tell him that he can count on us and that we are there for him is undoubtedly obvious but it is necessary to verbalize it
Answer his questions
It is difficult for the grieving child to ask a question and to have no specific answer in return. A child should not be alone in the face of his questions.
If really, the answer is considered too brutal, we can return the question to try to think together and propose a constructive dialogue: “And you, you think we go where / what becomes when we die
If the grief is immense, if the child folds on himself and refuses to communicate, it is essential to seek outside help.
Psychologists specializing in early childhood, will allow it to pass the course less difficult and move forward.